How to be the best you can be

Most people would like to be the best possible
version of themselves. Everyone has a different
concept of what makes you the best that you can
be. Though this is hard to define, the best
version of yourself is the happiest version of
yourself. Once you determine who you want to
be, address the things that are keeping you from
being that person, and invest in improving
yourself, you will be acting as your best self.

Method One of Three:
Knowing Who You Want to Be
1) Be aware of the kind of person you
strive to be. Know who you want to be
and be that person. Make a list of the most
important qualities in your personality. If you
find yourself deviating from those qualities,
slow down and regain your composure.
For example, if you want to be a more
patient person, come up with a plan to
practice patience in stressful times,
such as counting to ten.
Things like meditation, exercise, and
spiritual practices can help you recenter
yourself on who you want to be. [1]
Try making a list of your values to
figure out what type of person you
strive to be. Look over this list often to
remind yourself.

2) Set achievable goals. When your goals
are specific and achievable you are
more apt to meet them and feel good about
it. On the other hand, if you goals are vague
and unrealistic you are more likely to get
frustrated and forego all of your goals. [2]
For example, going to the dentist twice
a year is a specific and achievable
goal. On the other hand, improving your
health is too broad and vague.

Prepare for success. Eliminate things
that stress you out and slow you down.
Try to be one step ahead instead of one step
behind. Being prepared will help you feel less
stressed and overwhelmed. Create routines
for yourself that promote success. [3]
Prepare for the next day the night
before. Lay out your clothes or pack
your lunch.
Stop procrastinating and get your work
done before any deadlines.
Come prepared to meetings.
Keep in mind that success is not a
straight line. You will sometimes have
setbacks, and this is all part of
progressing towards your goal.

3) Surround yourself with positive people.
Find friends that support you or whom
you admire and surround yourself with
positivity. Spend less time with friends that
are always negative and not productive.
Learn from people who are trying to be the
best versions of themselves. [4]
Be a source of positivity for those
friends as well.
You might also consider why you
admire certain people. What qualities
do they possess that you would like to
have?

Method Two of Three:
Making Lifestyle Changes
1) Get rid of anything that is
unnecessary. Spreading yourself too
thin can lead to trouble, so it is important to
decide what is important to you and focus
on that. If you have too much stuff, get rid of
some of it. If you have too many
commitments, get rid of some of them.
Unnecessary things cloud your thoughts and
make it hard to be the best that you can be.
Declutter your house. Having too much
clutter around you has been linked with
an inability to focus. [5]
Streamline your finances by coming up
with a filing system or go paperless.
Limit your commitments outside of
work. Choose one or two activities to
commit to and do them well.

2) Say “no. ” Be realistic in what you can
accomplish every day and say “no” to
things that you don’t have time for or that
don’t make you happy. Only put things on
your “to-do list” that you will actually do. If
you have more to do than you can handle,
delegate that work to people who offer to
help you. [6]
For example, if your child’s teacher
requests that you direct the school
Christmas play but you know that you
are especially busy at Christmas time,
feel confident saying “no”.

3) Take time to carry out self assessment.  Keep a
journal of your thoughts and feelings to
determine how you think and feel throughout
the days. After some time read through your
journal to find patterns of success and
failure. [7]
Create a plan to minimize the failures in
the future.

4) Make a plan to achieve your goals.
Divide your goals into long-term and
short-term goals. Set deadlines for these
goals and develop a plan to push you
towards achieving them. Consider using a
daily planner to allocate the time you need to
reach your goals.
Keep in mind that changing your habits
takes time, so look for ways to help
keep yourself motivated. Try posting
motivational messages around for
yourself or watch a motivational video
on Youtube every day.

Method Three of Three:
Invest in Yourself

1) Take care of yourself. Be sure to take
care of yourself physically and
emotionally. Take control of your health by
eating well, getting enough rest, and
exercising regularly. Stop ignoring health
problems and address them as soon as
possible. [8]
Make and keep regular doctor’s
appointments.
Strive to get eight hours of sleep each
night.

Make time for you. Making time for
yourself is not selfish. Do something
that you enjoy and do it for yourself. Doing
things for yourself can help to re-energize
you to accomplish more throughout your day.
[9]
Take a break from work to meditate or
take a walk to clear your head.
Find a hobby, such as writing or
knitting.
Join a club.

2) Build strong and healthy friendships.
Good friends help you achieve your
goals and support you through tough times.
Spend less time with friends that bring you
down. Healthy friendships consists of friends
that accept you for who you are. [10]
Seek out friends that model the
qualities that you want to improve
upon.
Make friends at activities or within
organizations that represent issues that
you strongly believe in.

3) Never stop learning. Learn to do
something that you have always wanted
to do but you never made the time to do it.
Develop a skill to further your career.
Becoming stagnant in your career and life is
exhausting and demotivating. [11]
>Take an online course.
>Take an in-person class.
>Read a how-to book or article.
>Learn from your friends or family and
>share your knowledge with them as
well.
be yourself

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